Chrissy Teigen has 42 million followers on Instagramwhere she is thought for sharing with vulnerable honesty – especially on the subject of raising her 4 children. But when you take into consideration them Using social media? Not her favorite topic.
“I know I really want to put social media on hold,” Teigen, 38, said Tuesday in New York City on stage on the Digital Parenthood Summit, a day-long event on children and screens hosted by the web safety tool aura. “I would say [first] graduate from high school. That would be my absolute dream.”
Teigen was interviewed by media manager Jeffrey Katzenberg, whose WndrCo counts Aura in his portfolio. He asked Teigen about her fears related to her children and social media, as she uses it loads herself.
“I knowledge! Trust me. That’s the hard part,” she said, explaining that she thinks other technology in small doses is wonderful for her little ones – Luna, 8; Miles, 6; Esti, 1; Wren, 11 months. These include Duo Lingo for her eldest and YouTube episodes of Mrs Rachel since it is you
“I’m all for giving them that freedom because they do a lot of outside activities on a regular basis and I think it’s OK to give them that break sometimes,” said Teigen, who addressed her own complicated relationship with the web and pointed to a Current Posts by which she expressed her frustration at being criticized and misunderstood by her followers.
“I always try to live very authentically online and I got to the point where I felt so constrained – my every move was questioned and my character was misunderstood,” she said. “Nothing I did was right and… I’m very hard on myself.”
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To mentally detox, Teigen says she attended a four-day wellness retreat, laughing at herself for “embracing the hippie stuff that I always made fun of before I lived in LA. Now I’m like, ‘Oh, crystals? Set a goal!’ That’s kind of my whole world and I really believe in it.”
Especially on the subject of counteracting the consequences of media overload.
“All I know is that the way I’ve been doing it so far hasn’t worked for me: I overload myself with podcasts, TV, social media and the internet, all just to not be able to sit still while this ping-pong game is going on in my head: what is right, what is wrong, what mistake have I made? … It’s a constant battle with myself.”
Teigen says she has been going to therapy to deal along with her conflicting feelings about social media, including her love of it, which stemmed from what she calls a “really unstable childhood” by which she moved around loads, her father worked loads, and her mother left the family for a time when she was young.
“My mother left us when I was 12 years old. I came home one day and she was no longer home. She had moved to Thailand,” she said, after falling right into a deep depression over the death of each her parents.
After Teigen’s father bought her a laptop in sixth grade, “I used to be at all times in search of love, companionship, and friendship on the web. Being connected online was my stability – it was a really stable, protected place for me, which is so weird because it is not that in any respect now. But now I’m in search of that very same euphoric feeling I got online. [then].”
She even used message boards to search out details about her changing body during puberty and felt just like the individuals who responded to her were “my people,” she said. “That world just doesn’t exist anymore, so I’m kind of grieving the loss of that kind of connection.”
Now she is much more afraid that her children may very well be harmed online – and she or he is much from alone. According to Auras Report on the status of youthjust published in collaboration with Gallup, 86% of fogeys are concerned about their child’s online safety.
That’s why she definitely doesn’t want her children to think on social media that “everyone’s life is beautiful and perfect and filtered” long before they “have the mental capacity to understand how wrong all this nonsense is.”
For example, she said, “I went to dinner with the most popular people in the world and had the crappiest, most awkward time in the world. But when you see a post about our dinner, you think it was the greatest, funniest, most wonderful, most hilarious… And what? I went to that dinner and it sucked!”
That’s why Teigen appears like she has “an enormous responsibility to be authentic” when she shares something with others, especially on the subject of her children.
“I share them a lot – I’m the first person to say this – because in many areas of my life I feel like people don’t understand me. But because I’m a mother, a lot of people understand me,” she said. “And that communication with other parents is so important to me that it overrides almost everything else.”
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